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“What did you say?!” Responding to destructive communication traps


Frequent and open communication is the first line of defense against misunderstandings and hurt feelings in your relationships. The research on healthy relationships has identified four communication patterns that most often create long term relationship problems. The first and most common communication traps are criticism, which is blaming and verbally attacking your partner’s personality, and defensiveness, which is a counter attack to a perceived criticism (essentially saying “I’m not wrong,…

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